How I work - Understanding first
The first thing I do with any client is gather the evidence. I want to understand where you’ve come from, how you learned to see yourself and the world, and why you do the things you do.
Everyone is different, but if it quacks like a duck and looks like a duck, it’s probably a duck. There are patterns. Understanding yours is the foundation for everything else.
I use Transactional Analysis as my primary framework, it’s a way of understanding how we relate to ourselves and others that’s both intellectually rigorous and surprisingly accessible. But I adapt to what each client needs. Some people want to understand the theory. Some need to feel their way through. Some need both.
Long-term, not quick fixes
I work in longer-term therapy—typically months, sometimes years. This isn’t because I want to keep you coming forever, but because real change takes time.
CBT and short-term approaches can be effective for specific problems—if you want to stop smoking or manage a particular anxiety, they work. But if you find yourself in the same patterns over and over, if you want to understand why you are the way you are, then you need something deeper.
I’m interested in the kind of change that sticks.
The relationship is the work
Research shows, time and again, that the single most important factor in therapy isn’t the method, it’s the relationship between therapist and client.
This is why I encourage everyone to speak to a few therapists before choosing. Follow your gut. If something feels right, pay attention to that. If something feels off, pay attention to that too.
The relationship itself can be healing, sometimes you need a particular kind of person to show up for you in a way no one has before. That’s part of the work.
“There is only one way, and that is your way. There is only one salvation, and that is your salvation. Why are you looking around for help? What is to come is created in you and from you. Hence, look into yourself. Do not compare, do not measure. No other way is like yours. All other ways deceive and tempt you. You must fulfill the way that is in you.” - Carl Jung
I don’t have the answers to your life. But I can help you find your own way, and be alongside you while you do.
What to expect
Sessions are one hour, not the “therapeutic hour” of 45-50 minutes. I find the full hour lets us get to what really matters.
I recommend weekly sessions to start. Depending on where the work takes us, we might move to fortnightly or monthly later, but in the beginning, weekly keeps the momentum.
I offer a brief introductory call at no charge. It doesn’t make sense to start working together if we can’t work together, better to find that out before you’ve paid for a session.
Sessions are £60.